Respect, trust, flow reply
I found the film of Itay Yatuv and his daughter which
Helen posted on her blog this week, absolutely mesmerising with its graceful
energy and flow. The raw innocence and trust that a daughter gives to her
father was so tender.
Sadly, I have had little experience with contact
improvisation and when I have been lucky enough to have been involved in a workshop,
I have spent much of the time trying to relax and turn off the voices in my
head that say ‘I don’t know this person. How can I touch them, we’ve only just met? Etc, etc’ Finally at the end of the session I have built up
enough respect and trust to enjoy myself.
It made me think that when teaching our pupils, we
need to build up the respect and trust that our pupils need from us and not
just expect it as a given. When I moved to Carlisle in 1984 I set up dance
classes. I expected (in my ignorance) that people would choose to come to my
classes, as I was the better qualified to teach dance out of the schools on
offer. Not so of course. I needed to earn
and build up that trust. It wasn’t until a few years later that I realised that one
of the reasons people came to my classes was through word of mouth. I.e. a
parent of a child had given a good verbal review.
on the stage. Some firm friendships came out of working on these projects as we built up our respect for one another.
To finish I would like to go back to contact improvisation. Please look at the beautiful duet between Dave and Laura in Lucy Bennett's Artificial Things by Stopgap Dance Company.

Dear Debbie, I have found your blog most comforting and familiar. I also experienced a strange moment in my life in which I started my own dance school project thinking that my curriculum and professional experience would be a magnet to parents. To my great dismay it was not. Like you, it took me years to build trust and a solid relationship with my students. It was a great learning experience for me. My greatest learning was on the ethics in the relationship towards the dance community and learning to be part of it while still being critical so that we can grow and develop together. I am still learning...it is a slow and delicate improvisation.
ReplyDeleteThank you Marianella. Glad its wasn't just me. Looking back, even though I went to a small private collage, we realised that the education we received was very good for its time, and we felt confident enough to go and start our own classes and expected people to realise and believe in what we taught.
DeleteNow I look at newly qualified teachers wanting there own studio's etc so quickly before they have built up a clientele I worry for them. There is so much more to starting a business than teaching classes. x
Hi Debbie
DeleteThank you for your post, it really resonates with me!
The students i have in London, arrive in England with absolutely no english vocubulary or understanding of the English language. It is through time and the earning of their trust, that we build up a relationship and set of communication skills that allows us to form a strong bond and understanding, where we are able to impart knowledge and learn from each other. Although it is a timeous process, it is a treasured one.
Thank you Tanith. That's lovely to hear. x
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